Wednesday, November 19, 2008

Letting your Fingers Roam the Keyboard

One thing I've noticed recently is that there are two main themes that I like to write about: Diet Dr. Pepper and personal change. Putting aside my favorite caffeinated beverage for the time being, I'm realizing that personal change is a big issue in my life now. Considering that I'm in college, it's probably a good thing that I'm experiencing change. I don't want to be my 16 year-old self when I'm middle-aged. For that matter, I don't want to be my 16 year-old self now, either. My friends and I talk a good deal about how we've changed over the past couple of years, and I have to say that, thank G-d, I'm mostly very happy with how I've grown.

Part of what is prompting this post is a discussion that I had earlier this evening with a friend about the merits of raising your kids in a Bais Yaakov or Modern Orthodox environment. (What can I say, we think long-term.) I realized afterwards that there are advantages and disadvantages to each system and that the two worlds are not mutually exclusive of each other. Another thing that I realized (and that I've realized before, but I need to continue working on) is that although I consider myself pretty liberal and accepting of other people's choices and ideologies, I'm actually more accepting of people who are less "frum" (hashkafically) than I am than I am accepting of those who seem more "frum" than me. I need to work on this!

Another thing that I realize is that this post has turned out to be me very different than what I expected. I thought I would be writing about shidduchim. I guess not.

Tuesday, November 18, 2008

I'm Back

Long story short, I'm running out of ways to procrastinate, so I'm blogging. Oy.

My crazy friend, let's call her "Deenie," wants me to mention her. I guess that she doesn't realize that my blog isn't famous. In any case, here's a shout-out to "Deenie."

Although I have been quite inconsistent about posting, I'm glad that I started this blog. I'm a notoriously lousy journal-keeper, and this blog was a pretty good substitute journal while in Israel. A year later, I'm enjoying reading my thoughts from seminary. It's like reconnecting with an old friend.

In the interest of pleasing my future self, I'm going to try blogging this year.

So here goes: I'm officially no longer a freshman in college. My college experience is very different now that I have a group of friends from seminary, a job, a sense of belonging. Two years ago, I thought that I liked my school (and I did), but comparing it with my present experience, I realize how stressed out I was. That's not to say that I'm not stressed out now, trying to figure out what I'm doing with my life, but, b"H, I feel a lot more relaxed. I realize that my frame of mind is so important. Some things are nominally in my control, but really Hashem controls everything, and I just need Hashem to grant me the clarity to be positive.